tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595253270791554701.post531707517974641092..comments2023-10-31T09:50:07.091-06:00Comments on Marko Polo: Love...Markhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07072259264111848667noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595253270791554701.post-84365695634868108282009-01-03T08:19:00.000-06:002009-01-03T08:19:00.000-06:00I think it would help if you gave more specifics. ...I think it would help if you gave more specifics. Obvioulsy there are times when we give and we expect nothing back in return (ex: Walking the little old lady across the street. Or giving time or money to charities).<BR/><BR/>In the realm of making friends if Laura gives a friendship bracelet to her class mate- she might be expecting that class mate to feel closer to her in some way. It's an "invitation" to be friends.<BR/><BR/>In the realm of more evolved friendships or romantic love there is often times an understanding (verbal or non verbal) that things are clearly mutual.<BR/><BR/>In the case that they are not- then issues of resentment occur. But that also has to do with "expectations". No one is obligated to love us, no matter how many hoops of fire we leap through. No one OWES it to us. Besides you cant make someone a slave into loving you simply because we are nice and we did all the required steps to get "what we want".<BR/><BR/>Its humbling to put it lightly. <BR/><BR/>I think its important to understand WHERE you are putting your energies. Is the person capable and willing to give back?<BR/><BR/>If they are not- then you have to change your "expectations".<BR/><BR/>If you invest your time in people, and develop relationships, with those individuals who CAN give you what you want... then all is mutual. It works out!<BR/><BR/>But you cant expect everyone you give to, to give you what you want in return. It's not realistic.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes we are in situations where it is working- but something changes or the person is no longer reciprocal. Unless you are married there is no real contract to hold against them.<BR/><BR/>And even if you could hold up a physical contract in someone's face declaring that they OWE you love or OWE you something... then what kind of relationship is that anyway? Where you have to demand or remind someone to return friendship or affection.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595253270791554701.post-74746434362742141802009-01-01T21:47:00.000-06:002009-01-01T21:47:00.000-06:00Found you!Happy New Year!May you be blessed with m...Found you!<BR/><BR/>Happy New Year!<BR/><BR/>May you be blessed with much happiness and many joys in 2009!<BR/><BR/>May the world be blessed with Peace & Justice in 2009!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16939152657551690867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595253270791554701.post-5099695827987064122008-12-31T13:43:00.000-06:002008-12-31T13:43:00.000-06:00I don't think it's just about loving in a doormat ...I don't think it's just about loving in a doormat sort of way. I think it's that just learning to give yourself freely is hard to do. Learning to live life unselfishly is a struggle for most people, and it isn't inherently satisfying to most people. Maybe it's just me. I don't know. It's just hard to not give and want something back in return.Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072259264111848667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595253270791554701.post-53418360072156120912008-12-29T15:59:00.000-06:002008-12-29T15:59:00.000-06:00So let me paraphrase The Problem:The problem is wh...So let me paraphrase The Problem:<BR/><BR/>The problem is when you tend to love others you do so in a doormat sorta fashion? To put it bluntly?<BR/><BR/>Because if youre giving and giving without restraint or care for yourself, then yeah, obviously you will be unsatisfied and recklessly steer in the opposite direction to compensate.<BR/><BR/>And secondly who is defining for us the way in which we are "supposed" to love? Who is setting the rules or guidelines for you?<BR/><BR/>I think people love the only way in which they know how. But that doesnt always mean it's "healthy" or a great scenario to be in.<BR/><BR/>I think I get what your'e saying about faith, but faith alone- that youre doing a healthy thing... is flimsy at best.<BR/><BR/>To be satisfied with "love" sounds strange to me... It's natural! You dont have to ask if it's satisfying because it simply is.<BR/><BR/>Fear is not a problem, anger is not a problem, as long as we are brave enough to adress the big issues they are flagging.<BR/><BR/>If you have doubts or uncertainties, explore them without the ego in the way... and see what you dig up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595253270791554701.post-75256701503383853242008-12-29T15:41:00.000-06:002008-12-29T15:41:00.000-06:00testing...testing...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com